Two steps forward and one step back. At least, this is the way every day seems to me. All of us try very hard, but occasionally, we do something that is wrong or offensive.
I could not help but think of this principle several weeks ago when Vanderbilt head football coach James Franklin made some unfortunate comments about his hiring practices when it comes to selecting assistant coaches. He was talking in an informal way on a
radio station when he made his
As published in The Tennessean, he said: "I've been saying it for a long time. I will not hire an assistant coach until I’ve seen his wife. If she looks the part, and she’s a D-1 recruit, then you got a chance to get hired. That’s part of the deal. There’s a very strong correlation between having the confidence, going up and talking to a woman, and being quick on your feet and having some personality and confidence and being fun and articulate, than it is walking into a high school and recruiting a kid and selling him."
So, in order to be hired by
, a coach has to have a smokin’ hot
wife? That is what he meant by the term "D-1 recruit." He said he was joking
when he made the comments, but if he has been saying this for a long time, I
have to wonder if this is not partly true. After all, many people try to use
humor to put across their ideas. Franklin
After receiving a talk from his boss,
apologized. I will give him the
benefit of the doubt and believe that he was sincere. However, he apologized by
Twitter, which has always struck me as the last resort when it comes to giving
apologies. Twitter comes across as a way for people to say they are sorry in
the most benign way possible and not get their hands dirty. Franklin
Of course, my big concern with
’s comments is how he emphasized the
physical attractiveness of a woman when determining her quality as a wife. His
comments seem to indicate that a man without an extremely attractive woman is
somehow deficient in some way. Franklin
Unfortunately, his comments represent a common mistake when it comes to determining beauty. Physical looks is just one component when determining beauty. I am sure most of us have met somebody who is very physically attractive, but after getting to know them better, we learn there is absolutely nothing beautiful about them.
However, the attitude put forth by
can lead us down a slippery slope. This
leads to the objectifying of women and leads generation after generation of
females into having to live up to this distorted stereotype of what beauty
should be. Franklin
is just a football coach, and who cares what he thinks about beauty? Still, his
comments show how this mentality manifests itself in all aspects of life. After
all, this concept of beauty is repeatedly thrown in our faces. Franklin
Certainly, we see this in advertising. When we watch a car commercial, we often see a beautiful woman standing beside the vehicle being described. If a company is selling toothpaste, then undoubtedly, there will be a vivacious young woman convincing us that our lives will be a misery if we do not use the brand she uses.
I could go on and on, but I think we all get the point. We have to be very careful when determining who or what is beautiful.
Additionally, it struck me odd how quickly the
over. It seems the Franklin
media often grades Vanderbilt sports on a curve so they let a lot of things go.
If somebody like Nashville head coach
Derek Dooley had made these comments, the controversy would have been much
longer lasting. University